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Recognising Manipulation & Emotional Abuse (4): Breaking Free of Emotional Abuse & Manipulation

Today, in this Fourth Part of a series of 5 articles where I will examine how it is possible to break-free of the cycle of emotional abuse & manipulation. Over many years I have witnessed & been on the receiving … Continue reading

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(Un)Happy Christmas

  After a long break due to health issues I have chosen to return to my blog on Christmas Day. Why? Because this year, more than others, I am aware of many people who will find today & the next … Continue reading

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Our Defining Moments Can Be Our Darkest Times

Sometimes our defining moments are in our darkest times. Mine usually are. At the end of a ‘week from hell’ I am so thankful that a new day brings opportunities to conquer demons, put down unhelpful attitudes & work towards … Continue reading

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When Hope Comes, Change Happens

Hope is powerful! It means that something good can grow from our darkest times. If you are confused, angry or feel that the situation is hopeless, it isn’t. There is hope. Sometimes we have to look in the right place … Continue reading

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There Is No Shame In Struggling: It’s Okay :-)

Wrestling; Struggling; Sinking. Three words that can describe our daily lives at one time or another. Yet 3 words that many of us feel ashamed to use.   We think that they reveal weakness, dependency, some kind of inadequacy on our part. We … Continue reading

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Setting The Victim, Rescuer & Persecutor Free

    Sometimes we find ourselves locked into a seemingly never ending cycle: One minute we feel hard-done-by, then someone helps us, then we struggle with the help or we feel resentful towards the helper, then we feel guilty & hard-done-by etc … Continue reading

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The Drama Triangles: Childhood Experiences Affecting Adult Life

    Have you ever been on the receiving-end of help & then, for no apparent reason found it all too much, too invasive, too personal & become highly defensive or aggressive towards the person helping you? Have you ever … Continue reading

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“Why Did I Do That?” Childhood Experiences: Seeds Of Our Adult Life

  Have you ever been in a situation where something happens or something is said & you react immediately, later asking the question, “Why did I do that?” or “Why did I say that?” or even “Why did I think … Continue reading

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To Be Liked Or To Be Loved? Starting Where We Are & Reaching Where We Want To Be

    The greatest lie we are told is that we have to earn our worth or value. That is complete rubbish! Each of us is born with an inherent value & worth. As humans, we are built & wired … Continue reading

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Same View: Different Filter

I took this shot of Westminster (Houses of Parliament & Abbey) from the South Bank of the Thames earlier this week. The shot below is exactly the same photograph processed with a colour filter. What I find fascinating is that … Continue reading

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