Category Archives: deception

“I don’t Want to Take Sides!” REALLY?

For most situations we like to see ourselves as impartial,: not taking sides. Occasionally we feel compelled to support one person more than someone else, usually because of what we have been told by well-meaning friends. THEREIN LIES THE DANGER! … Continue reading

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Covert Narcissists: A Summary of Their Traits, Behaviours & Values & How To Escape

In the previous 4 posts, we examined the traits, values & behaviours of covert narcissists so that we can begin to identify whether our own life is being impacted by their malignant & destructive activities. PART 1 Covert Narcissism: (1) … Continue reading

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Who Cares What Others Think

Following on from last night’s ‘victim’ poem, tonight’s offering is seeing things from the perspective of the narcissistic abuser … ******************* You wanted so much, you wanted to live, But you didn’t realise I have nothing to give. My life … Continue reading

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(Un)Happy Christmas

  After a long break due to health issues I have chosen to return to my blog on Christmas Day. Why? Because this year, more than others, I am aware of many people who will find today & the next … Continue reading

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Striving For Perfection: A Distraction From The Truth?

“That’s perfect!” “Perfection indeed!” “Aim for perfection & you’ll get somewhere near.” Such phrases trip off our tongue & find their way into so many everyday conversations: at home; in the office; in our training & target-setting events; in our … Continue reading

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Setting The Victim, Rescuer & Persecutor Free

    Sometimes we find ourselves locked into a seemingly never ending cycle: One minute we feel hard-done-by, then someone helps us, then we struggle with the help or we feel resentful towards the helper, then we feel guilty & hard-done-by etc … Continue reading

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The Drama Triangles: Childhood Experiences Affecting Adult Life

    Have you ever been on the receiving-end of help & then, for no apparent reason found it all too much, too invasive, too personal & become highly defensive or aggressive towards the person helping you? Have you ever … Continue reading

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