- ‘Is it really worth it?’
- ‘Can I survive any more discouragement?’
- ‘Am I the only one that sees the potential in this idea?’
- ‘Is it time to turn over a new page & start again?’
Sometimes we have circumstances, like threats to our health, which makes answering these types of question easier: if we don’t change what we are doing then we will be in big trouble.
However, I was thinking more about those days where everything seems to be too much & all that reigns in our mind is confusion.
I have recently asked these questions daily & the interesting result is that as I ask them more & more, I become more convinced of a negative outcome, the result of which is loss of motivation & a sense of black clouds overhead.
I guess that as someone who thinks quite deeply along many different avenues, plus lack of self-belief, it is easy to push myself down a blind alley & achieve a self-fulfilling prophecy.
One antidote I have discovered recently is a return to reading books.
I can read & I can read well, but I am also a great procrastinator & someone who can be easily pushed down the route of self-sabotage & derailing the train just as it is gathers momentum. I have discovered some great books, autobiography, biography & non-fiction which enable me to see things from a different perspective & which show me how others have escaped from the same position.
I love it when people write an account of not only their successes, but also their struggles & the demons they have had to overcome in order to achieve their goals & ambitions. Books are so much better at this than media articles as they give the whole story rather than a snippet or soundbyte which either gives the illusion that such people never have a problem or that success was overnight. Sam Walton who started Walmart once commented along the lines that the newspapers (& this was in the 1950s & 1960s) portrayed the rise & success of Walmart as being ‘overnight’ to which wryly added, “I guess it was if you count overnight as 20 years of hard work.”
What I am learning through my journey is that asking important questions is a key part of my life journey, whether in business or private life. I can’t always just keep driving on in one direction without periodic checks that I am heading in the right direction.
Whether we are looking at projects, relationships, attitudes & more, sometimes we need to
- Put things to rest
- Take on new things
- Keep doing what we’re doing (possibly with a few modifications)
- Look for outside help
We have a wealth of resources that can help us answer most of the questions we ask: not only books but also friends & people who have already been where we are. We need to review the information we receive & make sure that it is relevant to us & fits in with our life view (for example, we will rarely be able to adopt a strategy that conflicts with our basic moral life view) but there is no harm in considering such things & asking ourselves some serious questions as just occasionally, it can be our life view that has got us to where we are.
A few of things I am trying to apply to my own life at this time of writing are
- Avoid extremes of thought: take the middle ground more often
- Listen more
- Return to the long-term friendships where people know me & therefore, are likely to be more honest
- Find mentors in areas that I struggle & for which I need help, advice or guidance
If you, like me, are at a crossroads where decisions are needed, I hope that these few meanderings will give you hope & some ideas for discovering how best to move forward.
In reality, we rarely have to give up everything in order to move forward, but sometimes there are important blocks that we need to remove or change & other things we need to add in order to start moving towards where we want, or need, to be.
As I try to remind myself, ‘Take small steps daily & you will make a lot of progress over time, much more than doing nothing through worrying about it.‘
I would love to hear from you if you have been in a similar position, especially about how you decided on the best way forward. Thank you 🙂
Take care until next time …