On the whole I find these encouraging & very helpful for re-focussing on the year ahead. In nearly all of the articles I read there is some little nugget or personal nudge that gets me thinking or clarifies my thoughts.
However, I have a real problem with just focussing on my greatness, what I can achieve, how I can be successful, because in that almost narcissistic approach I will rarely have any time to see the greatness in others. Their greatness becomes a threat to my own.
For me, the greatest people are those who know their weaknesses & despite, perhaps because of that strive to bring out the best in others. In so doing, they realise (achieve) their own full (true) potential.
This is not a popular message in an ‘I, Me, Mine‘ culture.
But we humans are wired for community not for individualism:
The former inspires, motivates & builds
The latter isolates, brings suspicion, lack of trust & ultimately destroys.
Sure, we need self-belief, but we also need the confidence to use that self-belief to help others without the overriding fear that by helping others we will lose out in some way.
In the end, we all gain 🙂
Some of the most important advice I was given when starting my business was,
‘Don’t head for the money. Do what you’re passionate about & work to exceed the expectations of your customers. If you do that, satisfaction will follow & the money will come.’
It’s not primarily about what I want to gain; it’s more about what others will gain & then, because of that, what the business will gain.
But we don’t do it so that we will gain; our primary focus is on others gaining.
This is personal risk with a capital ‘R’ because those of us who are less secure can feel that others will get ahead, I’ll be stepped over, I’ll not reach my own full potential etc. True; there are some unscrupulous individuals who do that to anyone & everyone, but they are rarely in the majority.
Perhaps the reason we don’t see this so often is because few try?
Looking around at the most successful & influential people, most have applied this principle on the way up & that is what has enabled then to reach where they are now.
There will always be financially successful people who are socially inept & to be honest, downright shits, but there are also many other people who are highly successful that don’t hit our TV screens & magazines each day & who work to bring out the best in others whilst achieving their own personal potential & are comfortable with themselves at the end of each day.
Just a few thoughts at the beginning of 2015.
Have a very Happy & Successful New Year (however you define success).
Take care until next time …