“I’ll do it tomorrow!” is a phrase that often passes through our mind when we’re thinking about something or someone not so high up our priority list. If it/they were, our response would be, “I need to do it now!”
If like me, your memory is not always that good after a night’s sleep, I’d like to encourage you to say to someone you know, today, perhaps now, “You matter!”
This isn’t some attempt to start a new movement or the next social media fad; it’s a heartfelt appeal that our words may be THE most significant & potentially life-changing words that person hears today.
As humans, connection is the key to our contentment, happiness, sense of value, sense of belonging. Without it we’re floundering; chasing the next source of approval or self-worth or self-gratification.
How do I know?
Because research tells us. Brené Brown quotes, “We are the most in debt, obese, addicted & medicated adult cohort in (US) history”
Evidence shows us that more of us, despite busier social schedules, increased social media contacts, etc etc feel less connected than ever before. So activity per se is not a route to solving this problem.
I think the core is that we lack person-to-person, face-to-face engagement with people.
It’s the ‘me‘ bit of me meeting with the ‘you‘ bit of you that makes the difference & impact: it’s hearing each other’s voice, seeing facial expression, perhaps a touch, hearing the tones in our voice that engages us at our core. It’s the point where social media is eclipsed by personal encounter.
I would imagine that everyone reading this article would appreciate a bit more encouragement or affirmation. The best way to start is by giving it to others.
Simple phrases like, “Thank you“, “You matter“, “I value you“, “You’re loved“, “I often think how glad I am that you’re one of my friends“, “I’m not always good at saying this, but thank you” etc … you know the best words to use.
Tell them in writing, via Social Media, text, e-mail etc but I would suggest that the greatest impact will be when we take the time to lift the phone & call someone to tell them, Skype them or just chat in a good old face-to-face setting.
We can also be more inclusive (in the truest sense of the phrase) by offering encouragement or a compliment & less exclusive through our criticisms. We may actually be able to be the change we want to see in others (to quote Gandhi) but I think, more significantly, we’ll feel part of something much bigger & much more significant: the awareness that we have made a difference in someone else’s life.
It may seem like holding a flickering candle in a storm but that flickering candle can start a fire that the storm cannot extinguish.
Just a few thoughts for today 🙂
So before I sign-off let me say, ‘Thank you for taking the time to visit this page, thank you for taking the time to read & consider what I have written & never forget that you are valuable.”
Take care until next time …