Surround Yourself With Positive People?

[Who Is Helping Who Most: Learning to Lift or Learning to Support?]

Who Is Helping Who Most: Learning to Lift or Learning to Support?

This phrase appears with increasing regularity in blogs & social media posts.

In many ways I agree with the sentiment BUT it always seems so me centric.

Sure, a key to moving forward is motivation & positive people are great motivators.  But if we’re only interested in the positive effect that people can have on us, we can miss out on some of life’s greatest teachers.

Some of the people I have learnt most from are those who struggle, often daily,  with issues like illness, confidence, poor health, disability & many other negative traits.  In these I see perseverance in hardship, trying to make sense out of confusion, seeing something good in adversity.

Whilst being surrounded by positive people may be very comfortable, I believe we can miss-out on the realities of life & some of the major, transforming lessons that we often NEED to learn in order for us to change, move forward & more effective on our lives, no matter how painful or inconvenient that experience may be.

There’s much more to life than just me & after all, if I only surround myself with the positive people, who will help those who are struggling to cope, who are entitled to the same chances that we are & need positive people themselves?

For me,  the major flaw with the saying is that in order for it to work, BOTH parties have to be positive!

That puts an emphasis on us too, so that the link can be complete.

Perhaps we should be adjusting our focus to, “When others encounter us, may they experience something positive in THEIR lives”  🙂

Until next time …


About waywood

Hi & Welcome to my thoughts. I share subjects that are important to me. As you’ll notice, these subjects can be quite broad & varied. I like variety; I like breadth & I like a challenge. I am passionate about helping others overcome their fears, grow in confidence & succeed. Although many people would label me as an achiever, I have battled low confidence, low self-esteem & a couple of nasty, long periods depression over the years. I can’t say, “I know how you feel” but I can hopefully empathise & offer some of the things that are helping me to turn my life around. Please feel free to comment, share & enjoy. Take care, best wishes & keep well Stuart
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1 Response to Surround Yourself With Positive People?

  1. Rob Grayson says:

    Excellent point, Stu. While the intention might be good, “Surround yourself with positive people” is ultimately just another me-centred strategy for being a winner.

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