As I encounter people day by day & listen to their conversations (with me I should add) I notice how often these phrases creep into conversation, especially if they are wanting to justify their position or opinion. It seems that many of us are afraid to actually say what we believe or think for fear of being rejected, ridiculed or embarrassed.
I also note that many of the people who use these phrases are people who like to be in control or quite insecure for some reason … or a combination of both!
What I find interesting is the response when I say, “I do!” or “I don’t!” depending n the comment.
Some just carry on having not having computed what I’ve said, so I remind them. When I do get a response it’s generally something like, “Oh! Really?” or “You can’t be serious!” or “Come on!” almost as if having another opinion is unheard of.
We talk about & hear & debate on the need for greater inclusion in society, the workplace, at home, at school etc & yet, at the same time we use phrases which automatically exclude or marginalise or undermine or, even worse, destroy.
Perhaps listening to ourselves & others a bit more often will help us to be less exclusive, more encouraging & more positive.
We can’t change others but we can change ourselves.
The great thing is, that if we’re successful in making a change in ourselves, others do notice it & will often ask “Why?” and why is an open question which can pave the way for change in others too.
Utopian society is a myth but an improved & reinvigorated society, starting with me, amongst the people I know and interact with, is always a possibility.
It’s happened before; it’s happening now; it will continue to happen in future.
Until next time …