Thank You & You Matter: Simple Phrases with the Power to Change

[Thank You Are Two Very Powerful & Motivating Words]

Thank You Are Two Very Powerful & Motivating Words

A friend once said to me,

I don’t usually make a comment unless something is wrong or needs correcting.

Imagine working with that individual  …

What would you be your impression of them?

I think they’d be viewed as an ungrateful task master who was quick to criticise & slow to reward or show gratitude.

What would be your impression of yourself?

I think eventually (unless you were a very strong character or have the ability to work in-spite of others) you would become rather dispirited & perhaps see yourself as not good enough.

How would you probably feel?

I don’t think it would take too long before one became demotivated, disenchanted & discouraged, perhaps even feeling a failure.

What would be the effect of this?

Work quality & consistency would suffer whilst you personally become demotivated, perform less effectively & even begin to doubt your ability.  Long-term I would suggest that stress & depression would be following quite closely behind.

How could the situation be improved?

Two little phrases: Thank You & You Matter are a good start!

It costs nothing in time or energy to show simple appreciation to someone for their help or a job well done, or dare I say, for giving their best even if they didn’t fully succeed.

It is too easy to become a ‘Facebook Warrior‘ hiding behind technology to fire off opinions or perhaps spending so much time using technology & not enough with face-to-face, personal interaction that we lose the plot regarding human beings & how we operate at our optimum.

I’m not advocating praising sloppy work, poor attitude or rudeness: they need handling on an individual basis as required, but what I am suggesting is that if a few more of us spent a bit more time letting others know that we appreciate their work &, more importantly, who they are as people, we’d see an improvement in individual & corporate performances.

At the core of our lives is the need to be wanted, loved & appreciated. Unfortunately life’s circumstances don’t always allow us to experience these but, each of us a does have the potential to make a difference in someone else’s life with just a few simple words that cost noting but may reap a fortune.

Are we the kind of ‘others‘ that our friends, colleagues & acquaintances recognise as being different, motivational, grateful, encouraging … whatever other appropriate word fits, or are we just like those people that don’t get noticed (or perhaps even avoided) because ‘we’re just like everyone else?

Until next time …


About waywood

Hi & Welcome to my thoughts. I share subjects that are important to me. As you’ll notice, these subjects can be quite broad & varied. I like variety; I like breadth & I like a challenge. I am passionate about helping others overcome their fears, grow in confidence & succeed. Although many people would label me as an achiever, I have battled low confidence, low self-esteem & a couple of nasty, long periods depression over the years. I can’t say, “I know how you feel” but I can hopefully empathise & offer some of the things that are helping me to turn my life around. Please feel free to comment, share & enjoy. Take care, best wishes & keep well Stuart
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2 Responses to Thank You & You Matter: Simple Phrases with the Power to Change

  1. Rob says:

    Right on, Stu. Criticising often comes naturally, while encouraging takes conscious effort and attention. But the rewards are substantial.

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