A friend once said to me,
“I don’t usually make a comment unless something is wrong or needs correcting.”
Imagine working with that individual …
What would you be your impression of them?
I think they’d be viewed as an ungrateful task master who was quick to criticise & slow to reward or show gratitude.
What would be your impression of yourself?
I think eventually (unless you were a very strong character or have the ability to work in-spite of others) you would become rather dispirited & perhaps see yourself as not good enough.
How would you probably feel?
I don’t think it would take too long before one became demotivated, disenchanted & discouraged, perhaps even feeling a failure.
What would be the effect of this?
Work quality & consistency would suffer whilst you personally become demotivated, perform less effectively & even begin to doubt your ability. Long-term I would suggest that stress & depression would be following quite closely behind.
How could the situation be improved?
Two little phrases: Thank You & You Matter are a good start!
It costs nothing in time or energy to show simple appreciation to someone for their help or a job well done, or dare I say, for giving their best even if they didn’t fully succeed.
It is too easy to become a ‘Facebook Warrior‘ hiding behind technology to fire off opinions or perhaps spending so much time using technology & not enough with face-to-face, personal interaction that we lose the plot regarding human beings & how we operate at our optimum.
I’m not advocating praising sloppy work, poor attitude or rudeness: they need handling on an individual basis as required, but what I am suggesting is that if a few more of us spent a bit more time letting others know that we appreciate their work &, more importantly, who they are as people, we’d see an improvement in individual & corporate performances.
At the core of our lives is the need to be wanted, loved & appreciated. Unfortunately life’s circumstances don’t always allow us to experience these but, each of us a does have the potential to make a difference in someone else’s life with just a few simple words that cost noting but may reap a fortune.
Are we the kind of ‘others‘ that our friends, colleagues & acquaintances recognise as being different, motivational, grateful, encouraging … whatever other appropriate word fits, or are we just like those people that don’t get noticed (or perhaps even avoided) because ‘we’re just like everyone else?‘
Until next time …