Yes, I do mean what I say in the title.
One of the biggest battles we often fight is the sense that we have nothing in our life story that may be of use, or help others.
If you’re like me, you’ll be constantly aware of how you can improve, where you did things wrong, where you fell short of what you wanted to achieve or say or do.
In short, you’re constantly aware of your faults!
Let me encourage you: other people really like that because it gives them something in common with us 🙂
If you’re the kind of person who rarely if ever makes mistakes, this post is not for you. You probably need to find like-minded perfect people, but I think you’ll be in a small minority group.
I’m not recommending that we go the other way & dwell so much on our faults & failings that we suck the life out of everyone we meet!
BUT you do you have a unique story of how you reached where you are now; struggles, achievements, challenges, victories, loss of confidence, inspirational people events etc. That is powerful. No-one else has been exactly through what you’ve been through BUT many will have wrestled with the same issues you may have conquered but still be looking for an answer or way out.
Some time ago, I sat down & spent an hour recalling what I’d achieved, not achieved, regretted & celebrated throughout my life & I had far more than I could ever have thought possible. The same is true for you.
I think that we sometimes see our ‘little victories’ as insignificant; to others that same little victory could be the key they need to unlock their door & move on.
I’m also not suggesting that we hunt around for some unsuspecting victim on which to thrust our story at an inopportune moment.
What I am suggesting is that we have so much more to offer than we realise when it comes to helping others. That may be nothing more than through a chat over coffee, a night with friends at the pub, out shopping with friends, in the office etc.
One of the most important lessons I’ve had to learn is despite a low opinion of my achievements at times is that I can never underestimate the power of my story. It’s a great way of seeing the significance of our seemingly insignificant experiences. Our story can never be taken away from us as we have been through it, experienced it, lived it; that makes it so much more powerful than theory or ideas.
I find it very encouraging to meet people like myself who do not have life sorted, who can & do make mistakes, who are still searching for answers, but who learn from what they’ve tried & achieved so far & grow through the experience, even if it is a painful one.
So please be encouraged. People interact best with people, especially those who are fallible like ourselves, who redress the ‘Photoshopped’ & media enhanced perfection we often strive to achieve with no chance of succeeding.
Why not surprise yourself & inspire someone else at the same time: that would seem like a perfect win-win situation to me 🙂
Until next time …