Keeping a Grip on Reality

If you have ever suffered from low self-esteem, depression or low self-confidence, you will know how easy it is to see unreality!

I read a great quote the other day which went something like, “If I think hard enough I can see problems that don’t exist.

I don’t advocate going through life without thinking; the results could be disastrous!  However, I do encourage you to look at the evidence that supports your view & see if any exists.

Let me give you a personal example:

I have recently been struggling with very low mood & when this happens it is easy to see the worst in things. I often joke that the standard depressives response to “You look great today!” is “So what was wrong with me yesterday?”

I am a character who thinks (too) long & (too) hard about many things, frequently convincing myself that I’m right!

Last week I had the privilege of playing in a band on Main Stage at a UK festival. The day went really well; we played well; listened to some other great bands; had brilliant weather & I came away still with some money still in my wallet! The staff at the festival were great; very welcoming & friendly. This was especially true of the Mainstage managers & sound guys who all did a great job.

But one lady who I stopped to speak to on a number of occasions said something very significant for me:

Thank you for spending time talking to us & showing an interest in us.

To say this was a tonic is an understatement. For a long time I have been unable to gauge exactly where I am mood-wise & along with that has gone the thought that I’ve become quite distant, unfriendly & just a bit boring to be with.

That was my ‘Reality‘ but it took someone else to take time to unknowingly challenge my thinking with evidence that told me something different. I hadn’t done anything special; I hadn’t asked for feedback; but what I got was a pointer that my sense of reality is not always the same as the real thing.

I’m very thankful to the lovely lady from Stafford who made that throw-away comment & reminded me to listen to what others say, as they may just say something that is very enlightening & more than a bit encouraging.

It also reminded me of how much my words can mean to others, for bad & good, though I hope it’s more for good.

Stuart Wood Playing for Northern Quarter at The Acoustic Festival of Britain 2013

Stuart Wood playing for Northern Quarter at The Acoustic Festival of Britain 2013

Until next time …

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About waywood

Hi & Welcome to my thoughts. I share subjects that are important to me. As you’ll notice, these subjects can be quite broad & varied. I like variety; I like breadth & I like a challenge. I am passionate about helping others overcome their fears, grow in confidence & succeed. Although many people would label me as an achiever, I have battled low confidence, low self-esteem & a couple of nasty, long periods depression over the years. I can’t say, “I know how you feel” but I can hopefully empathise & offer some of the things that are helping me to turn my life around. Please feel free to comment, share & enjoy. Take care, best wishes & keep well Stuart
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