I love Easter as it reminds me that I am incapable of doing everything myself; sometimes I just have to let someone else help me!
The problem is that many of us see accepting help as failure because we’ve been indoctrinated to think that accepting help = weakness! Unfortunately, many of the individuals I’ve met who promote this line of thinking are the most insecure people I’ve come across and the very ones that need the help they shun.
As human beings, we operate best in communities and that involves communication and relationship.
Relationship is a lot more than a simple ‘we like each other‘; relationship is something much stronger and something which continues even when we find liking each other difficult. Relationship is two-way and implicit in that is helping each other. It’s so liberating to accept that we can’t do everything ourselves and to realise that working with others shows much more ‘courage‘ on our part than it does ‘failure‘.
The right kind of relationships also help us to put together many pieces of a jigsaw puzzle that would otherwise be impossible, to make sense out of confusion and to make good out of bad.
Please don’t misinterpret this as ‘relationships are everything‘; they’re not. We need to take responsibility for what we are and what we do etc, but in a World that tries to promote the ultimate goal as being self-sufficient, self-made and self-gratifying, it’s good to adopt a counter-culture which demonstrates that working together and admitting we need or want help achieves so much more ( and in the process, we create a more holistic society where we begin to matter to each other).
So, amongst the bunnies, eggs and chicks this Easter time, let’s remember that we can’t do everything ourselves and when we ask for help we can achieve and enjoy so much of what we previously thought was impossible.