Following on from my last entry about encouragement, I was wondering how often we miss out on valuable relationships because we fail to forgive.
Some of the things we need to forgive can seem like mountains; an impossibility; far too much. Other things may be small, trivial things that have been left for too long, so they fester, ferment and grow much larger than they should.
The sad thing is that we are often the ones that suffer the most when we fail to forgive because we are the ones who get eaten away, angry, resentful or just plain stressed and ill.
Back in the late 90’s I became seriously ill and was faced with many things that I needed to do. One of these was to release myself from unnecessary stress by forgiving others. That was really hard! I had many good reasons not to forgive. But in a conversation with a good friend I became aware that unless I forgave, I could not release myself or the other party from the destructive cycle.
Some time after this conversation I wrote the following piece as a reminder to myself of the need to forgive and the cost of being unforgiving. It’s often an alien concept today, but I can recommend it for your own peace of mind, better health and better sleep.
How much does it cost to forgive?
An ounce of pride;
Harsh words left unspoken;
The past put behind us;
Hope for the future.
How much does it cost to be unforgiving?