How often have you, like me, walked into a room full of people and felt isolated? Not because you don’t know anyone; you know many of the faces in the room, it’s just that everyone is busy in their own world of busyness.
And then I wonder, how often am I so busy or caught up my own little world with its problems and demands, that I completely miss someone who is lonely, in need or just wants to chat?
I find that attention to the small, often insignificant details is the key to success in relationships, like noticing a person’s favourite colours for their clothes, or remembering names, or remembering things that have happened in their life.
One account that always sticks with me is of a student nurse who, during her second month of nursing school, was given a quiz by her professor. She considered herself to be a conscientious student, breezed through the questions … and then came to the last one: “What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school?”
Surely this was some kind of joke. She had seen the cleaning woman several times, a tall, dark- haired lady in her 50s, but how could she be expected to know her name? So she handed her paper back, leaving the last question blank. Before class ended, she asked if the last question would count toward our quiz grade.
“Absolutely,” said the professor. “In your careers you will meet many people. All are significant. The people in your world deserve your attention and care.”
I like to forget this story every so often just because it puts the responsibility firmly on my shoulders to make the effort for what so many others consider insignificant; the intrinsic value each of us has.
Society would tell us otherwise as it focusses on the rich list, and as it does, society becomes all the poorer. However, it seems to be those people that have a clear perspective of their own worth and value in the context of others that live and enjoy life to the full. And their value is not in £ or $!!
Until next time …